This is 100% my ex wife. Unfortunately, the only person I have had sex with. The trauma bond is real. After 15 years I am finally divorced and NARC free a year + now! Thanks for sharing this important info. I truly hope other people can get educated and see what's really going on in these relationships.
We all have some narcissistic traits but most of us have empathy. Narcissists have some major impairments in their ability to empathize for other humans. They are also very explorative and entitled.
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 thanks to people like you making videos about abuse. I'm slowly learning emotional intelligence,, without emotional intelligence my empathy has been used against me. Thank you.
I am very much interested in taking the course in setting boundaries because I really, really struggle to do that. I figure out it is because I was trained to be compliant and also to never be seen or really heard, and so I have a lot of issues at work and sometimes other places and parts of my life too.
Almost everything The narcissist does is “implied” rather than actual. It’s designed to get you to live inside your own head, rather than touch your heart. (This is why I say, at no time in the history of mankind has anyone ever *been in love* with a narcissist. It’s scientifically not possible) If you take yourself out of the equation, who the narcissist claims to be to you, does not exist. On the last day with my narcissist I remember the words, *”who ARE you!?”* coming out of my mouth.
This is so profound and true. It helps with healing to know that I was in love with a version of myself that was external to me. So now I get to be with me and own/integrate all those things I love about myself.
I'M TRYING SO HARD TO HEAL IT'S THE HARDEST THING I HAVE EVER FACED. I'M 52 YEAR OLD MAKE WITH A SPECIAL NEEDS 17 YEAR OLD SON WHO WAS HURT MENTALY AND PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY BY THE NARCSASTIC BITCH I WAS MARRIED TO FOR 30 YEARS. THEN FEW MONTHS BACK PACKED AND LEFT WITH OUT A WORD.
Respectfully being friends with someone you were sexually intimate with should no longer be in your life unless you have kids with that person. Thats the problem with todays society and social media because people still keep in contact with people who no longer should be there.
Covert narcissists are like a book which text changes according to the partner they're currently in relationship with...indeed, chameleons.
This is 100% my ex wife. Unfortunately, the only person I have had sex with. The trauma bond is real. After 15 years I am finally divorced and NARC free a year + now! Thanks for sharing this important info. I truly hope other people can get educated and see what's really going on in these relationships.
Great video, I noticed that the more avoidant narcs like to hook people in with their shyness and vulnerability.
True
Remember those choose your own adventure books? The narc is the protagonist in her own novel.
Been there thru it all and more. Glad it’s over
Obviously, you've read my diary! Thank you...
Thank you for pointing this out and explaining it ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon
I think I've got plenty narcissistic traits. Yet I will feel shit if I've hurt someone through my actions.
We all have some narcissistic traits but most of us have empathy. Narcissists have some major impairments in their ability to empathize for other humans. They are also very explorative and entitled.
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 thanks to people like you making videos about abuse. I'm slowly learning emotional intelligence,, without emotional intelligence my empathy has been used against me. Thank you.
I am very much interested in taking the course in setting boundaries because I really, really struggle to do that. I figure out it is because I was trained to be compliant and also to never be seen or really heard, and so I have a lot of issues at work and sometimes other places and parts of my life too.
Thanks Corey the course is available on my site www.coachkat.org/. I hope it helps. I’ve had positive feedback.
Almost everything The narcissist does is “implied” rather than actual. It’s designed to get you to live inside your own head, rather than touch your heart.
(This is why I say, at no time in the history of mankind has anyone ever *been in love* with a narcissist. It’s scientifically not possible)
If you take yourself out of the equation, who the narcissist claims to be to you, does not exist.
On the last day with my narcissist I remember the words, *”who ARE you!?”* coming out of my mouth.
This is so profound and true. It helps with healing to know that I was in love with a version of myself that was external to me. So now I get to be with me and own/integrate all those things I love about myself.
I'M TRYING SO HARD TO HEAL IT'S THE HARDEST THING I HAVE EVER FACED. I'M 52 YEAR OLD MAKE WITH A SPECIAL NEEDS 17 YEAR OLD SON WHO WAS HURT MENTALY AND PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY BY THE NARCSASTIC BITCH I WAS MARRIED TO FOR 30 YEARS. THEN FEW MONTHS BACK PACKED AND LEFT WITH OUT A WORD.
This is all correct 100% like you talk about my ex.
Respectfully being friends with someone you were sexually intimate with should no longer be in your life unless you have kids with that person. Thats the problem with todays society and social media because people still keep in contact with people who no longer should be there.
Wow. My ex to a t. Was the most painful experience. Is it always on purpose tho?